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WHY YOU SHOULD HAVE A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP

Healthy relationships are commonly based on:

respect
trust
open communication
equality
both shared and individual interests
understanding
honesty
care
emotional support
shared values around finances, child raising and other important matters

Healthy relationships can:

increase your sense of worth and belonging and help you feel less alone.
give you confidence.
support you to try out new things and learn more about yourself.

To encourage more open communication in your relationship:

set aside time to speak to each other, without interruptions
put yourself in the other person’s shoes
don’t rely on the other person to guess what is going on, or how you are feeling
listen to each other, and make sure the other person knows you are listening to them
let the other person finish what they are saying
talk about things honestly and respectfully.
try not to be too defensive.
stay calm and try not to attack.

LOVE LANGUAGE: QUALITY TIME

My Love Language is: Quality Time

If your spouse's love language is quality time, they want to feel like they are the person you want to be around the most. And when you are with them, they want to feel like you don't care about anything but what they have to say. The 60 ideas listed below will give you some great ideas of how you can speak to your partner's quality time love language!

One of the top five love languages for me is quality time. I really love whenever my spouse and I have uninterrupted time that we can spend together.

If your spouse’s love language is quality time, they want to feel like they are the person you want to be around the most. And when you are with them, they want to feel like you don’t care about anything but what they have to say. The 60 ideas listed below will give you some great ideas of how you can speak to your partner’s quality time love language!

WHAT DOES QUALITY TIME MEAN IN A RELATIONSHIP?

This could look like going on a walk, just the two of you, and focusing on what your partner is saying. It could also be sitting together at dinner, looking at each other and talking. Look around the next time you are out to eat at a restaurant. Which tables are filled with people spending quality time together? And which tables are filled with individuals who happen to be eating at the same table? If your spouse’s love language is quality time, they want you to show that they are important to you by spending time with them and using that time to focus on them and nothing else.

Some people whose love language is quality time really appreciate quality conversation more than anything. This is when the two of you are talking together without any conflict. You should be sharing your experiences, thoughts, feelings, and desires in a way that is enjoyable to both of you. This might sound like the words of affirmation love language, but it is not.

When quality time people are talking, try the following active listening skills:

Focus on what they are saying.
Lean in slightly.
Affirm what they are saying.
Ask thoughtful questions.
Avoid trying to offer advice, unless they ask for it.
Try putting yourself in their shoes or thinking about how you might feel in the same situation.

BASIC RIGHTS IN A RELATIONSHIP

The right to boundaries
The right to have your privacy respected.
The right to express yourself.
The right to leave the relationship.
The right to avoid parenting.
The right to see your friends.
The right to be respected and treated as an equal.
The right to refuse physical touch with anyone, at any time, for any reason.
The right to dates
The right to be right and wrong