SELF-CONFIDENCE CHALLEGE DAY 1

​SELF-CONFIDENCE CHALLEGE DAY 1
WITH BRENDON BRECHARD

1. Why is developing more confidence important to you at this stage of your life?
   1. Well, for one thing productivity levels are boosted. If you are confident in yourself and in your business, you are more likely to be more productive.
   2. Because, if I was more confident, I would rarely think about how others impacted me, and rather I would think about the impact I have on others.
   3. Feeling confident starts with stating my goals. I will let people know that I will finish a task at work or in my business, and I will then go on to finish that task. By voicing my goals to my team, am holding myself accountable, which will help to boost my confidence.
2. When do you feel like you lack self-confidence? Is it in certain situations? What do you think causes the self-doubt?
   
   1. I recently (New Years 2023) lacked self-confidence (in the bedroom & with myself) after I went up to Ohio to spend New Years with my girlfriend. We had sex using a Strap-on (I'm a Trans Male, FTM). When having sex with her I used what I had to go with (A strap-on). And after coming back to Virginia, she informs me that the strap-on just won't cut it, that she wants, and I quote her, "real dick".
      
   2. So, back to the question, I lacked self-confidence after that because....
      
   3. She made me feel inadequate.
      
   4. She made me feel ashamed of being who I am (Transgender).
      
   5. She made me feel like something was wrong with me for not having the "right" body parts for her (even though she knew I was Trans when we started dating & she said she was totally fine & okay with that & that she loved me no matter & loved me for who I am).
      
   6. She kind of made me feel ashamed for "NOT" having the "right body parts" like she wanted (even though I didn't know that's what she wanted, & honestly at that time, I don't think she knew that's what she wanted either).
      
   7. I have to say it definitely shot down my self-esteem AND my self-confidence.
      
   8. Now I don't want to have sex ever again, not with her or anyone else for that matter, because I feel like she and others will criticize me or make me feel bad because I am Trans & because I don't have the body parts they want.
      
   9. I don't even talk about sex with her anymore or even bring up that subject.
      
   10. I used to flirt with her & talk sexual to her but NOT anymore, not since that incident.
       
   11. I am too embarrassed to have sex with her anymore or even talk about sex with her, because she made me feel ashamed & embarrassed by it.
       
   12. Unfortunately for me, my girlfriend has this guy named Anthony that she grew up with, and she told me after New Years that Anthony IS going to be her fuckbuddy because she knows how she is and that means she is going to want "REAL" penis & this Anthony guy can give it to her She said however that she DOES still want to be with me and that she DOES still want to have sex with me also. Which doesn't help my self-confidence or self-esteem any better.
       
   13. So, I now lack self-confidence and have low self-esteem when it comes to sex because my girlfriend made me fell like shit.
3. What positive attributes or recent wins have you had that you could give yourself credit for and incorporate into your identity.
   
   1. I completed a course entitled, "Crystal Healing", through Alison.com, after taking that course I earned a Certificate in that course.
      
   2. I got a new Avon Customer who ordered over $50 in Avon products this last Campaign.
      
   3. I quit my "9-5 Job" at the Gas Station so I could work on my Avon Business full-time & really just focus mainly on that right now.
      
   4. While attending Technical School, I was chosen to be the Student Government Association President for the student body, as well as a Student Tour Guide, and a Student Peer Mediation Counselor.
      
   5. While attending Technical School, I was chosen among a handful of students to do an internship working on the Annual Report for the school and working with Keith Burt who was the Head of the Marketing Department and who was in charge of making sure the Annual Report got done.
      
   6. In October of 2006, I was given the "Editor's Choice Award" for outstanding achievement in Poetry by the International Library of Poetry in Maryland.
      
   7. In June of 2005, I was given the "Editor's Choice Award" for outstanding achievement in Poetry by the International Library of Poetry in Maryland.
      
   8. In November of 2008, I was given the "Editor's Choice Award" for outstanding achievement in Poetry by the International Library of Poetry in Maryland.
      
   9. While attending Technical School I achieved the "Career Readiness" certificate, presented by the Commonwealth of Virginia.
      
   10. In October of 2007, I earned the "Microsoft Office Specialist" certification by Blue Ridge Community College.
       
   11. In August of 2007, I became "Customer Service Certified by Rockhurst University Continuing Education Center.
4. What are 3 words that could describe your future best self? What can you do to live into those words?
   1. Creative
   2. Dependable
   3. Energetic
5. What can I do to live into those words?
   
   1. As far as Creative goes; I could be a more "Creative" Avon Rep in my Avon Business by coming up with new ways to get new Avon customers. Such as holding BBQ's, attending Vendor events, tossing Avon Books in the driveways of people in my neighborhood & surrounding neighborhoods etc.
   2. As far as "Creative" goes, I could be a more "Creative" Team Leader with my Avon Team members by coming up with new ways for us all to recruit new Avon Team Members to our teams. Such as taking the whole team to local Colleges to recruit, taking the team to Vendor Events & Holiday events to recruit new Avon Team Members.
   3. As far as "Dependable" goes. I could be a more "Dependable" Avon Representative & Team Leader by always showing up to Team Meetings, never being late for Team Meetings, always meeting up with my Avon customers to give them their Avon orders when I say I will, to always attend all of the Avon Conventions and events that Avon holds (online & offline).
   4. As far as "Energetic" goes, well, I have ADHD & have since I was a kid so I have always been "Energetic" But, as far as "Energetic" goes in my Avon Business, I know I could be a more energetic Team Leader. For example, I would motivate and inspire my Avon Team members by getting them excited & pumped up about their Avon Business & their Avon customers by me being energetic & pumped up myself. I could be a more "Energetic" Team Leader by getting excited and pumped up about Avon events, the Avon Conventions being held, Avon Parties, Avon Book Tossing etc.

​Post FIVE things that make you unique, strong, or successful.

Five positive attributes or strengths about yourself.

1. ​I am a very good communicator and find it's easy for me to relate to other people.
2. ​I really enjoy learning new things and am constantly seeking out new learning opportunities.
3. I have Empathy for others around me at all times. I understand how the people around me feel about projects, decisions, morale, direction and company or team vision. I show empathy by recognizing and considering my Avon Team Members & Avon customers feelings. 
4. I am Flexible. I'm a Flexible Avon Leader that can adjust and maintain ownership of my Avon team; and any projects or meetings as needed. I'm open to new ideas and change as long as it moves my Avon team and our company forward. Being flexible can help me & my Avon team to adapt to changes in our Team workplace, projects and Team environment so I can adjust my strategy for achieving goals.
5. I have a Growth Mindset. I'm an Avon Leader that does well when I adopt a growth mindset. Circumstances often change from when a project, challenge or issue began. As an Avon Leader, I consider that technology may have changed or personal issues may have arisen for my team. If I can keep a growth mindset and adapt, I can overcome challenges to continue to make progress toward my goals and my Avon Team's Goals.